Monday, 7 November 2016

Find me elsewhere!

Hey guys! So, you might have noticed but this little space of mine has kind of been abandoned as of late. I didn't quite intend for that to happen but life kinda gets in the way sometimes and I just haven't had the time to write on here. Some of you might already know that I write a food/vegan/lifestyle blog as well as this one and I've really been focusing on that recently because I just love it. Since going vegan, I've become so passionate about the lifestyle and obsessed with making all the vegan food, so that's meant this more lifestyle/whatever is on my mind blog has, well, slipped to the back of my mind. 

I'm not saying I won't be back but for now, I'm just going to leave this space as it is. This was the platform where I first found my love of blogging and I am so happy to have connected with so many of you guys on here. I might start posting again but I'm not making any promises right now, because you never know what's going to happen. 

So, I wanted to tell you all where else you can find me if you're into food and stuff (who isn't) because I'd love to keep sharing my adventures with you all: 

Instagram: @gingerkitchenblog
Twitter (still the same one): @gingerkitchen_ 


Wednesday, 31 August 2016

Life Snippets: the summer months

It's been a few months since I wrote one of these posts. I could make an excuse, say I've been busy or something but I won't. Truthfully, I just haven't felt like writing on here. I don't like to force myself to come up with content so rather than halfheartedly trying to pull something together, I've favoured silence, broken slightly by the odd post here and there. After having last week off work though, I felt like I wanted to reflect a little, put down some thoughts and just write. 

It's funny how when something a bit rubbish happens to you it can feel like the worst thing that could ever happen. It is so easy to be wrapped up in your own problems that you forget how good you actually have it. Yes, ending up on antibiotics and feeling pretty horrible on my week off was quite rubbish but it's not the worst thing that could have happened, and being determined not to let it ruin my time completely, I still had a lovely time.

It's been a summer of outdoor adventures, trips to the city and a lot of yummy vegan food. It's just flown by, as is always the case, and I'm already dreading the shorter days and darkness that's to come. Although, I do have a bit of a soft spot for autumn, the beautiful colours and that lovely feeling of coziness so it's not all bad.

These past few months I've realised how grateful I am for the wonderful friends I have. For the family I love but who I don't see often enough. For the beautiful world around us. I've laughed a lot, cried a little and felt so happy. I've spent time with some great people, eaten a lot of delicious food and visited new places and old favourites. I haven't done everything I wanted to do but I've done enough to feel content. I've realised I feel more at home than I ever have before and that even though I'm not where I thought I would be, I am happy for now.

A few posts I've loved recently::

Charlene's wonderful Feel Good Friday posts - this one in particular

How has your summer been?


Sunday, 28 August 2016

Swipe Right | The Struggles of Online Dating

Online dating. 

The thing that somehow manages to make you feel wonderful and awful at the same time. It makes you doubt yourself and feel like you aren't good enough. It also makes you smile and gives you hope that maybe you will find someone after all.

Above all, it's bloody hard. 

I was single for quite a long time before I eventually realised that I would probably be single forever if I didn't actively do something about it. Unsure what else to do, I dove into the world of online dating. That was six months ago and I'm still single. It's been a struggle, to say the least. 

I'd never actually 'dated' before. I mean I'd been for dinner with boyfriends but all the relationships I'd had were when I was much younger and dating wasn't really a thing, instead you just kind of 'got together' and it was all really casual. Now, I'm an actual adult and have to go on proper dates and act all grown up and that just kind of makes me uncomfortable, I mean does anyone actually like going for dinner with strangers? It's got to be the most awkward thing ever.

It's difficult being an adult and actually having to seek out relationships. I'm not a lover of going out to clubs, I don't drink and I work in a tiny little town where nothing ever happens. I soon realised that I wasn't going to meet anyone organically, that a wonderful man wasn't going to just fall into my life and whisk me off my feet (no matter how much I wished that would happen). So, I joined a dating website and began meeting up with strangers off the internet, something that as a child you are always warned never to do, and yet as an adult it becomes totally necessary.

I downloaded Tinder and hated every second of it, although I do still swipe away sometimes because you need to keep hoping that someone is out there. On the dating website, I spend ages searching for guys, scrutinising their profiles and trying to determine if they might be a good match for me. It doesn't make me feel that great. Especially when I find a guy I do actually really like and he all of a sudden stops replying for no reason and I begin to question what it is I have done to scare him off. Maybe I'm not pretty enough, maybe it's because I don't drink or because I'm vegan, maybe they thought my chat was terrible or maybe they just found someone else - the problem with never knowing is that you jump to the most ridiculous conclusions in your head to try and justify the silence. 

In the world of online dating, you really need to know how to sell yourself because, let's face it, nobody wants to go out with someone who sounds super boring, but making yourself sound fun and interesting is so bloody hard. I can hand on heart say that writing my online dating profile was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, and I hate every single word of it. 

I've met up with men who sounded wonderful but who I just didn't click with. I've been scared away when things got too intense and I didn't know how to feel or act. I've felt rejected when guys I liked and was getting on great with all of a sudden stopped messaging back. I've cried. I've laughed. I've questioned every single little thing about myself

Online dating is an emotional rollercoaster and I'm still not sure it's all going to be worth it. 

When all your friends have guys and seem happy and content, it's hard to be single and still searching for someone great, unsure if you will ever find anyone.

Online dating. The struggle continues.


Thursday, 11 August 2016

Reading recently

When God Was a Rabbit by Sarah Winman (4.5/5 stars)

Despite the title of this book, it actually has nothing to do with God, or even religion for that matter. In the book, God actually is a rabbit, a pet rabbit named by a little girl who believed that God could be anything so why not a rabbit? Usually I try to write my own little blurb on what the book was about but I think the one on the back of this book itself is so perfect I'm just going to share that: 'Spanning four decades, from 1968 onwards, this is the story of a fabulous but flawed family and the slew of ordinary and extraordinary incidents that shape their everyday lives. It is a story about childhood and growing up, loss of innocence, eccentricity, familial ties and friendships, love and life. Stripped down to its bare bones, it's about the unbreakable bond between a brother and sister.' 

I loved this story. It's beautiful, poetic, captivating and honest. It's a coming of age novel that will capture your heart. The book is split into two parts, childhood, and adulthood, and while I adored both I think part one was slightly better where the characters innocence and childhood creates a beautiful sense of family life. It's like everything in life, as we grow up things become a little less magical but find new ways of being wonderful. 

Try Not to Breathe by Holly Seddon (4/5 stars)  

When Amy was 15 years old she disappeared while walking home from school before later being found in a coma, her attacker having left her for dead. Fast forward 15 years and Amy is still lost to the world, having never woken up she is trapped inside her teenage mind unaware of all the time she has lost. Alex is a reporter who stumbles across Amy while writing a story on the hospital and her doctor's treatments. Remembering Amy's attack, Alex becomes determined to find justice for her, to discover what really happened while trying to overcome her own battle with alcoholism. 

The story is told between Alex's present and Amy's hazy past, unfolding the story slowly but keeping you guessing. It's a story of two women who have spent years fighting coming together to find some justice in the world, creating a bond that only one of them can truly appreciate. Alex's alcoholism also adds an interesting layer to the book which I really enjoyed, although I would have liked to have known more of the back story to her struggle and how she developed the problem in the first place. Although this book is a who did it type, it's so different to any other I have read, taking a fresh angle on the same old plot. A really wonderful debut from Holly Seddon. 

Trail of Broken Wings by Sejal Badani (4/5 stars)

The Trail of Broken Wings follows three sisters, each who followed a different path in life, come back together as their father lies in a coma. Heartache, pain and shame gripped the women and their mother for years, their strength destroyed by their father's hand. Coming back together, they face the memories they had long buried and tried to forget and the pain of discovering the true extent of the damage their father inflicted upon them.

This story really took me into a whole different world, one where pain and abuse are normalised and happiness seems like only a dream. It's a moving and powerful book that really portrays the destructive impact that a of a childhood of beatings and living in fear can have on a future life. Sonya, Trisha and Marin have each hidden their pain for so long, pushing it to one side, running away and trying to live out a normal life, but the bruises go so much deeper than they could ever imagine. Now, the man who created such pain lies unconscious and unable to hurt them anymore, but they still struggle to truly let him go. I really loved this book and although it deals with a difficult subject matter, it is done so in a really insightful and compelling way. 

What books have you loved recently?

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